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Struggling to let go of Comparison…

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I love working the polls. I get to be around people all day, talking to my fellow poll workers, and helping my fellow citizens fulfill their civic duty.

Yesterday in between processing voters and helping them cast their ballots all the workers spent time talking and getting to know each other. We got into a couple of long conversations. One about movies, T.V. shows, and actors. We discussed older T.V. shows, our mutual love of White Christmas”, “Holiday Inn”, Bing Crosby, and Fred Astaire. Current Netflix favorites and movie remakes much of which I had never seen or heard of.

Toward the end of the night when things were a little slower to pass the time and stay awake, I struck up a conversation about food. We talked about favorite foods, breakfast for dinner, and weather nuts belong in chocolate chip cookies. Weird food combinations, grocery shopping, and cooking. Loving all the bread and the difference cooking in cast iron makes—especially when it comes to fresh bread. It didn’t take long to conclude that eating at home tastes better and is a whole lot cheaper than eating out.

For whatever reason this SIMPLE, helping-to-pass the time conversation encouraged me SO much!

You see, I can count on 2 hands the number of restaurants I’d eat at without cringing. The last movie I saw in the theater was the ORIGNAL Frozen” back in 2013. Eating out at a restaurant (whether drive-thru or sit down) is incredibly rare in our house. Our go-to places are Subway and the local burger joint Bradley discovered while working Prevention a couple of years ago. We’re more likely to buy fried chicken at Meijer, heat it up in the oven at home, make some mashed potatoes, and open a bagged salad than we are to place an order on DoorDash or Grubhub.

Little Bailey Cooking

I’ve always felt like I never fit in when it comes to people my own age… After processing the events of yesterday and talking about it with my family I realized I enjoyed it SO much was because there was no one there around my age. I was the youngest by about 20 years! Everyone there was probably close to my parents’ age.

One of the reasons that I wanted to start this blog was to encourage other people. I spent (and still spend) way too much time online comparing myself to other people’s highlight reels. I not only compare myself to virtual people on the internet but also when I’m around people on a regular basis—especially people around my age. Constantly trying to fit in or justify why I am so different.

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”
~Psalm 139:14

I’m constantly being reminded that God made us all different. He has a unique plan for each of our lives and works that only we can accomplish (Jeremiah 29:11, Ephesians 2:10). In Him we’ve been given all that we need for “life and godliness” (2 Peter 1:3). Just because I’m different doesn’t mean that I should turn into a mouse around everyone close to my age. I need to remember what God says about me and that I am created in His image for a purpose (Genesis 1:26-27).

We all know that “comparison is the thief of joy”. But do we really think about what that means especially when we’re right in the middle of a game of comparison? I don’t think so. Comparison not only steals our joy, it takes our confidence, and shouts our insecurities constantly saying that we’ll never be enough. The truth is, we aren’t enough, and we never will be no matter how hard we try. Yet, because of Jesus we are. Because of what Jesus did on the cross we are more than conquers (Romans 8:37). His sacrifice allows us to be enough—not in our own strength, but in His (Philippians 4:13).

Next time comparison comes knocking let’s remind ourselves how God sees us and step into that slightly uncomfortable situation with His confidence!

Until next time,

Bailey Sue

2 thoughts on “Struggling to let go of Comparison…”

  1. Hi Bailey, This is your Aunt Shirley and I wanted to let you know that you are a beautiful young lady with a wonderful talent of speaking and writing about the love that Jesus has for all. A talent that is so very valuable. I love reading your blogs, so keep up the good work.
    Aunt Shirley

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